Hello Awesome Readers,
Finally this is happening that I am working towards my passion for blogging and what else can be the better start than this one.
Being a mom itself is a divine gift of God but is it truly a gift or a fine that you will figure out soon after reading this post.
When you get married plenty of things get change, you enter a new house, and you meet to whole bunch of new members in the family. While you are going through all the changes and adjustments they are also going through the same. As for them you are a new member too.
And in the mid of all the alterations you have been going through you get to know that you are pregnant. Ahhhaa!! Good news..?? Really 😛
Pregnancy itself is a long journey of 9 Month or shall I say 37-40 weeks as we all usually calculate. We all go through so many physical and mental changes, for which I will soon be coming up with a separate post. But for now let’s start with what all things change when you have a baby:-
- Patience– This change is quite unavoidable as you will gain this quality automatically. If a person like me who is damn impatient can become patient after being a mom then I am sure anyone can be. There will be times when you feel frustrated towards yourself, towards your body and even sometimes towards your baby. There is no downtime for you; you are a wholesome support for a baby. Baby just knows one person and that person is you. You hardly get time to sleep, as at the initial 2-3 months baby needs time to get used to a new world.
Trust me ladies, patience is a key and will open all the locks which gets build after you deliver a baby.
- Post-Partum Depression– Many of you may have heard of this term and for many of you this may sound like an alien. We all go through this stage few may go for a shorter period and for others the duration may last for some long time. I also went through this, so from 60-80% of brand new moms go through Baby Blues or Post-partum Depression. It’s an emotional state of uneasiness, feeling sad, getting tensed or worried about getting a hold of newly added responsibility. You may even feel like crying for no reason. These are some symptoms of Post-partum Depression.
But there is nothing to worry about it as the way it begins a few days after delivery it even goes on their own within a week or two.
- Punctuality-Earlier when I had to visit any place be it a house party, a family event, shopping or any other place it always took me half an hour or so to get ready and take a move. But after having a baby you have to first make his/her bag ready with all the essential items like Sanitize, Baby Wipes, Diaper, Milk Bottles, Milk, toys, some extra clothes etc. Then you have to change her clothes. And then finally you can make yourself ready. And by god forbid while leaving, your baby shits… then you just need to remember the point no.1 i.e. “PATIENCE” ;).
So ladies forget to be punctual when you are going anywhere along with your baby 🙂 .
- Alone Time- As soon as the baby arrives life gets busier day by day. Those were the days when I even forgot the meaning of “Alone”, how does it feel like being alone. You won’t even get time to go to Loo, to take shower. You will always need someone to take care of a baby in your absence and in case if you are staying alone then it even gets more difficult for you. But nothing to be worried as tough time will pass soon.
And it will pass even sooner if you manage things in a creative manner. Likewise,
- You can hire a skilled maid to help you in your Postnatal or postpartum period. As both mother and baby health is interconnected.
- Plan ahead, and jot down points in a diary or in your smartphone– like what all things you may need at the time of delivery and during first 2 weeks of post delivery.
- I even got myself registered with Lifecell, Its a stem cell bank that helps in storing your Baby’s umbilical Cord, which is a unique source of stem cells and can help your child and family to fight with some major diseases. I would not like to name them here, so you can click here to visit their site for further details.
- Your family plays a pivotal role at the time of delivery and even at Post Delivery period too, so please don’t hesitate to ask for any help.
- New Alarm Clock- After having a baby you don’t need an alarm clock to get up early in the morning. Firstly, at the initial months you won’t be sleeping so you need not to worry to wake up early 😛 But yes once the baby get used to your daily routines he/she will start adapting your sleeping schedules. And at that time your baby will act as your alarm clock.
- Your Body– When I got pregnant I ate everything be it Popcorns, Chocolate Fudge, Pizza, Burger, Cheese Parathas. You name it and I had it. Except Non-Veg, as I personally don’t eat Non-Veg. Those were the days when you crave for so many things and I used to crave for melted chocolate a lot ahmmm 😉 and these cravings make you forget the calories you are gaining. I didn’t realize or maybe I didn’t bother that I am gaining some extra kilos than it required. And my Gynecologist used to tell me “dear you have to control your cravings”. I once asked her how to control cravings, she said “if you feel like having a pizza then have a slice or 2 don’t have a complete Pizza in one go”.
So I learned that theory and followed it in my way, if you feel like having a chocolate Fudge, take a spoon or 2 or may be 3 or 4 or maybe 5 I know you can’t stop yourself so finish it up :P. That’s how I followed her instructions and gained 20kgs during my pregnancy. And I thought I will be losing it after delivering a baby, but ladies that’s not true. Yes, you do lose some weight which includes your baby’s weight, blood and amniotic fluid and Placenta. Even this loss will not be equal to what you have gained till 9months.
Losing these extra kilos will take time and again you have to remember the point no.1 “Patience” You will get rid of this weight but not instantly and it’s not even recommended. As your baby took time to get delivered so shredding weight will also take some time. I will be discussing all the weight loss methods that worked well during my Journey from FAT to FIT on a separate post soon.
- Respect– After delivering a baby you start respecting your parents even more because then the life takes a 360 degrees turn for you and you can relate it so well, with all the pains and stress your parents would have gone through at the time of your birth and even at that time when the resources were not so abundant.
- Your Wardrobe– You wardrobe is also something that is going through the change continuously from the time of your pregnancy to Post-Partum. As your size keeps on changing from a medium to Large and from Large to XL and may be from XL to XXL & so on ;). But just remember one thing if you are not sure about something then don’t wear it because you will not feel comfortable in tight fitting clothes and it’s not even recommended neither at the time of pregnancy nor during Post-Partum. You can arrange your clothes with sizes. By putting the smallest sizes in the bottom and bigger sizes at the top. You can cleverly accessorize yourself with a scarf or a stole to hide those added kilos. To read more about Post-Partum clothing tips click here.
- Attention: – You will notice that any place you visit or anyone who is visiting at your place, be it a stranger or a known person your baby drives his/her attention. Be it a shopping mall, a restaurant, a park or any other place maybe. You can easily become friends with anyone and all thanks to your baby who is driving all the attention.
- Surprises: – After being a mom just be ready for plenty of surprises every day, every week & every month. Be it your baby’s first Smile, Giggle, Turn, Head hold, Crawl, Walk, Jump, and fall anything or everything may be. Just always be ready with a camera to capture those surprises.
- Your Perspective- After having a baby you’re perspective towards looking at things will change. Every dress you choose to wear or purchase you first sees the comfort of your baby. The dress shall not have heavy stone work, sequins or embroidery to make your baby uncomfortable while he/she is lying in your arms.
While purchasing any new furniture you have to keep in mind that you have a baby at home so merely decorative or not so useful items are strictly optional. And products that appear to be unsafe are big No- No’s.
- Hair fall: – During pregnancy we all find that our hair has become stronger because of an increased level of oestrogen. (Oestrogen is a hormone that we all women have; it helps in bringing about the physical changes that makes a girl into a woman). And after you give birth the Oestrogen level falls which causes hair fall. So you may find more hair coming out in the shower or on the brush.
There were even times when I thought, I may get bald. But that’s not the case; you will get rid of this unusual shedding soon within 6-8 months after you give birth.
I am sure there are plethora of things change when you have a baby. I tried to cover major ones here, still if you can figure out some more, please don’t hesitate to share them in the comments below or shoot me an email at [email protected]. I will be glad to see your feedback 🙂 . Happy Reading…